At Exclusive Invites, we make your stationery to fit your style. Here are some etiquette history guidelines to help you decide how you would like to have your stationery made. You let us know how you would like things worded and we will follow your cue.
Who's Name should go first on the Invitation?
Traditionally, The brides name goes first on the wedding invitation and heres why:
Before you are married you are Miss Jane Smith. After you are married you will forever be referred to as Mr & Mrs Jeremy Stoneham. Women, once married are traditionally are reffered to a second after the man. Having the "ladies first" etiquette is a tradition. You may choose to have the mans name first just because it fits better into a design.
Should we include our registry info on our invitations or save-the-dates?
In a word, no. Your wedding invitation lets guests know how much you love them and want them to be by your side on your wedding day. Including registry info on the wedding invitations or save-the-dates is still considered impolite because it can come off as though you're asking for gifts. Tell your wedding party, parents and close friends where you are registered, and let them fill guests in. Putting your registry info on a wedding website is perfectly acceptable.
We're having an adults-only wedding (no kids). How can we make sure this is clear to our guests?
Address your invitations correctly -- to each guest by name, not “and guest" -- and guests should understand that the invite is meant for only those mentioned. If you find that some reply with their children's names added, give them a call and explain that you're having an adults-only wedding and that you hope they can still attend. You can also put "Adult only event" on your information card or rsvp.
Do we have to invite every guest with a date or a “plus-one"?
No, you don't have to. If a guest isn't married or in a serious relationship, it's perfectly acceptable to invite them solo. Most guests will understand that without “and Guest" or another name on the invitation means they aren't invited with a plus-one. What to do if a guest RSVPs for two? Call them up and explain that you're having an intimate wedding and, unfortunately, you were not able to invite everyone with a guest.
If our wedding reception is for immediate family only, is it okay to invite people to the ceremony only?
Not really. Everyone who attends the ceremony (or bridal shower, engagement party or wedding reception) should be invited to the wedding -- that means the ceremony and the reception. In your case, by inviting guests to one and not the other, you're basically saying you want them there for the actual ceremony but you either don't want to pay for their plate at your party or don't care enough to have them there to actually celebrate your newly married status.